Friday, December 3, 2010

Trust

Wow, that's a very heavy word.  It is so full of meaning . . . . yet how easily it can be broken.  I think trust goes along with faith.  In order to trust someone, you have to have faith that they will live up their end of the bargain.  When they don't, you not only loose your trust in that person, but also your faith in them.

For example, a child asks for something and the parent responds with "Later, not now."  Later the child asks again only to receive the same response.  Eventually the child will stop asking because they have lost faith that the parent will follow through.  The next time a request is made and the same response is given, the child will not trust the response because faith has been reduced.

It's like that in relationships too.  You put your trust/faith in your mate.  You believe them when they tell you they love you.  You trust that they will honor the promises made to you.  That trust is unconditional . . . . until it is broken.  Once broken, it is VERY hard to mend.  Much work and a lot of time will have to be sacrificed to fix the situation.  The offender will have to own up to his/her transgressions and ask for forgiveness.  The offended will then have to GIVE that forgiveness.  Once these happen, the recovery may begin.